There are a lot of mentions here about the *intent* behind using certain words. Especially in the context of ATC communications we should understand that how a word is *received* and *understood* is at least as important as the intent behind it.
Let’s assume no one intends to cause offence or harm by using “Sir” or “Madam” or specific pronouns. That seems pretty obvious, IMO. We should be focusing on the effect that words or VATSIM policies can have on members.
I will also point out that “let’s just ignore it, I think everything’s fine” isn’t a solution.